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Although technology has made meeting people easier than ever, many men find the keys to attracting a woman a bit elusive. Here are five ways to attract a woman:

i. Be Confident. Few things will make a man seem more attractive than a well-developed sense of confidence. Being confident is having an awareness of not just who you are as a person, but using that awareness to grant you a certain sense of poise and assertiveness.

Those who are confident rarely find the need to belittle others and have a more positive outlook on both life and future prospects.

ii. Be Humorous. There’s no getting around it: first impressions are critical when it comes to dating and attracting a woman. Unfortunately, first dates can often be tense, uncomfortable events.

Demonstrating a great sense of humor is an excellent way to make you stand out in a woman’s eyes. A playful comment can help cut the tension and, more importantly, help her relax.

iii. Be Adventurous. The world is full of amazing, wondrous things to do and to see. And yet, many people find themselves stuck in a rut doing the same things and visiting the same places over and over again.

Wanting to experience new things isn’t simply a female desire; it’s a universal one. An effective way to separate yourself from the crowd and stand out to women is to provide your date with an experience she has never had before.

iv. Don’t Be Needy. Everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated, but no one wants to be smothered. Making a woman feel special by complimenting her, or sending her flattering messages is a great way to fan the flames of attraction.

However, sending dozens of texts or telling her after the first date that you are deeply in love with her are surefire ways to send her running.

v. Be Yourself. If you truly want to attract a woman, the single most important thing you can do is be yourself. Although it sounds clichéd, being yourself is always the best course of action when seeking a mate.

Women will respect you more for it, and it will ensure that you are with someone who is truly attracted to you for who you really are.

Jasbina is the founder and president of Intersections Match, the only personalized matchmaking and dating coaching firm serving singles of South Asian descent in the United States. She is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio.

Jasbina Ahluwalia

Jasbina Ahluwalia adds a unique contribution to the Matchmaking industry–she has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of the East and the West. She is an Indian-American attorney-turned-entrepreneur,...