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Q.There’s so much competition out there. Is there anything a guy can do to increase his chances of success on a first date?

A.First impressions mean everything. Nowhere is this more true than in the dating world. A good first date opens the door for building a rewarding romantic relationship. A bad first date, on the other hand, can extinguish hopes for a second date.

Men can enhance their chances for making a first date memorable through choosing the right activity. First dates can be a little awkward. Each person is guarded and trying to not screw it up. Choosing the right activity breaks the ice and allows a couple to enjoy their evening together.

Good first date activities share common characteristics. They feel fun, creative and safe. These activities should make it easier for you and your date to communicate. They should also reduce nervous first-date jitters.

Making your chosen activity feel fun is the most important rule of a first date. Do not be afraid to inject some personality into the evening. Nothing drives a woman away from a man faster than feeling bored while spending time with him.

Going to dinner and a movie is a traditional first-date staple. Is it really your best choice for a first-date activity? There are better options. You can’t talk much during a movie. Find creative ways to interact with each other. Some ideas for interaction can include:

•    Playing games at a local park.

•    Attending a sporting event.

•    Attending a local festival with live music and authentic cuisine.

•    Taking a short hike or nature walk.

Doing these types of activities can help stimulate authentic conversation. You can get to know each other better in a setting where interaction does not feel forced. This will help you feel less nervous.

The best news for any man is when a woman feels relaxed and comfortable in his presence. First dates can easily breed nervousness. You like one another enough to spend an evening together, but you don’t really know each other yet. It can be a little awkward figuring out how you should get to know one another.

Choosing a fun first-date activity can eliminate the nervous and awkward feelings in those situations. It lets you feel more comfortable being yourself. It also allows your date’s true personality to emerge. You can discern your compatibility together easier and see what you have in common.

Your chances for building a meaningful relationship are enhanced by how you approach your first date.

Jasbina Ahluwalia

Jasbina Ahluwalia adds a unique contribution to the Matchmaking industry–she has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of the East and the West. She is an Indian-American attorney-turned-entrepreneur,...