I Am The “Other”

I Am The “Other”

The Silicon Valley is a bubble,” my daughter said when I tried to apply the logic of the valley to the rest of the country. My children live on the opposite coast and they have told me often that the Bay Area coddled and insulated us from most events that skewed the...
Racism Of The Every Day Kind

Racism Of The Every Day Kind

A couple of weeks ago, we witnessed a racially charged demonstration on the grounds of a premier American University at Charlottesville, Virginia. White supremacists, Klansmen and Neo-Nazis marched with torches spewing hatred. To most Americans, the march was an...
Are Indian Weddings Too Ostentatious?

Are Indian Weddings Too Ostentatious?

I saw Monsoon Wedding, the new musical, with a group of Indian women friends recently. We laughed at familiar idiomatic expressions, translated, at times awkwardly, from Hindi into English. We got nostalgic listening to old melodies. I even got teary-eyed when a...
Marriage Matters

Marriage Matters

I’d been caught in a maelstrom of engagements and weddings recently. In some instances, the girl or the boy was not that much older than my own daughter and so now my child began chafing at the broad hints from her parents about her own future. “You guys raised me to...
Motherhood, Sequence and Success

Motherhood, Sequence and Success

Have you heard of the success sequence? Even if you haven’t, you might have unwittingly been adhering to the sequence. It’s a social rationalization theory given new life by a study published in the American Enterprise Institute and Institute for Family Studies by W....